Divorce is not fun.  Especially if it comes as a surprise, or if the separation itself was particularly stressful. But given it happens to about half of all marriages, it is an important topic to consider. And especially now, during this period where Coronavirus has forced many couples to spend too much time together only to find it has taken a big toll on their marriage.  So what should you do after a divorce? In many respects this is the most important part of the process to ensure you come through this period stronger and happier.

Spend Some Time Alone

A good first step to bear in mind is that you should consider spending some time alone. Of course, you might also want to have some friends around you to help you through the process, but it’s still a good idea to at least have some time where it is just you on your own. That gives you a chance to think through what is happening in your life, and to try to decide where to go next. It’s also an opportunity to simply spend some time doing the sorts of things you love to do on your own - and maybe take up a new hobby that you have always wanted to try.

Take a Vacation

One of the best ways to start to recover is to take yourself on a vacation. You can do this with a friend, a family member, or - if you prefer to just be alone for a while - you might want to think about going on your own. If you do decide on that option, you should look into the concept of luxury single travel. After all, you want to be kind to yourself during this time and indulge yourself a little. For many people, this is the perfect tonic to their woes.  If nothing else it will give you the chance to start to get over the divorce emotionally. And it is a very necessary break.

Let Yourself Wallow - For a While

It is perfectly natural to want to wallow in the emotions involved in the divorce. For many people, this is one of the hardest things that happen in life, and most psychologists would consider it a major life event. However, you should also take care not to wallow for too long or get too lost in your head, as that only leads to depression and despair. It’s all about letting yourself feel, but not getting too lost in those emotions.  Ultimately you have to pull yourself back up and carry on with your life. If you can do that, you are going to have a better chance of moving on, and your life is going to look a lot brighter.

Remember that you need to put your needs first.You will get through it, and will be much happier in the end.